Everyone has heard the old platitude that beauty comes from within. As true as that it is, with all of the noise about how people should look, act, and feel, it is hard to feel confident as you navigate the world.
A study conducted by personal care brand Dove reported that only 4% of women around the world consider themselves beautiful and more than 60% of high school-aged girls avoid daily activities like going to school when they feel bad about their looks. Men also face difficulties with confidence, with The Guardian reported that 80% of men express anxiety about their body image and what they see as flaws or imperfections.
In stressful times like these, you still deserve to feel confident and proud of who you are. Be forgiving of yourself if you have been a little less active during the quarantine period, remember everyone should be staying inside and away from other people. When the world becomes too much to handle, it may be time to treat yourself to some pampering.
Feeling unattractive can be a direct hit to someone’s confidence. Remember that it is okay to not feel attractive and that it is okay to want to feel attractive. If you want to work on your confidence both inside and outside, follow these tips:
The “Lipstick Effect”
Makeup has been scientifically proven to be a confidence booster. The “Lipstick Effect” is a psychological phenomenon that claims that wearing makeup boosts the confidence and self-esteem of the people wearing it. In 2017, a group of researchers at Harvard Medical School tested this theory by conducting an experiment that determined that female students who wore makeup received higher grades than those who did not.
The students were randomly placed into groups where they either listened to music, colored a picture, or put on makeup, then all participants took an exam. The students who put on makeup before the exam outperformed the students who listened to positive music or did the control activity.
If you want more confidence, if you want to feel stronger and more assured in yourself, keeping your makeup supply filled might be all you need. Even in a pandemic, when you can get through a workday by doing a Zoom call without your camera on, taking the time to feel beautiful could be the best way to boost your self-esteem.
Change Your Look
If something does not work or make you feel happy, you should change it. If it is causing you stress and making you less confident, that absolutely includes your appearance. Your hair is the easiest part of your body to change, maybe it is time to go for a pixie cut that you have always wanted, or lean into the curling iron to get that full-bodied bounce.
Take pride in doing the work to feel confident about yourself, even if it includes getting work done. For some people, there are features that no amount of makeup can hide. Even if other people do not notice it, a scar or lump can cause a serious strain on your confidence. There is no shame in considering reconstructive plastic surgery or cosmetic surgery.
Plastic surgery can be expensive, so it is important to shop around to find the right doctor for you. If you are looking for an affordable nose job, Tampa has a wide range of professionals who will help you figure out what procedure is right for you. Chicago has several specialists for different augmentations or enhancements below the neckline. Los Angeles is full of doctors with competitive rates that can care for the body parts that you want to be addressed.
You can also do some retail therapy within your budget. Get that coat you really liked on the mannequin, buy a color palette that is more dramatic than your typical look. If beauty is only skin deep, then you have so much room to play with new looks and styles.
Take a Spa Day
The first step toward more confidence is to center yourself and find a way to ignore those people that want you to feel bad. Treat yourself to a spa day that will not only make you feel refreshed and healthy but also boost your confidence so that you can take on the world.
Beyond the mental strain, stress can make people physically unwell, leading to upset stomachs, acne, muscle tension, and more. Too much stress can even lead to heart problems, putting your life at risk. Confidence and stress are two combating forces that affect the way you live your life, and a spa might be the perfect way to distance yourself from the stress of the world.
Surround yourself with relaxing smells, pleasant sounds, and calming touch and feel the stress of the world slip away around you. Studies have shown that visiting a spa can be beneficial for your mental health, lead to fewer sick days, and give you a better night’s sleep. When you are relaxed and in a more positive frame of mind you can address the things that give you stress and build your confidence in a stronger way.
Doing the Mental Work
For all of the physical work you do to build your confidence, it all comes to being in the right frame of mind. You should feel free to do the work that affects your mental state. Studies have shown that listening to positive, upbeat music leads people to find more success in their lives and have better health. Listening to music releases dopamine, the feel-good neurotransmitter.
Of all the options to boost your self-confidence, music is the least obtrusive to your life. You can listen to music anywhere and with streaming services, you can listen to any kind of music. With this level of access, you do not experience the potential dangers of other mood boosters like travel or expenses like shopping and retail therapy.
Positive self-affirmation is also proven to give you a more confident approach to life. Repeatedly telling yourself you are a rockstar could boost your mood and lower your stress before an important or nerve-wracking event. Psychologists have found that people who engage in self-affirming behaviors before stressful events show no change in their bodies’ level of stress indicators, while those who did not self-affirm indicated increased stress levels.Even the most confident people in the world did not get there overnight. Take this advice, put in the work, practice self-care and you will be on the right track to a more confident and successful you.
About the Author
Jennifer Bell is a freelance writer, blogger, dog-enthusiast, and avid beachgoer operating out of Southern New Jersey.